As most people and their grandmothers, I’ve hopped on the tidying up with Marie Kondo bandwagon. After doing some research into her method and what it means to her, I feel as though I can better appreciate the almost meditative aspect of her KonMari method.
I really wanted to watch her show after hearing so many mixed reviews. I started watching the show and immediately was intrigued by her need to greet the home she was cleaning and her strange resemblance to a great aunt of mine. (their demeanor and style is nearly identical) There’s something that she does that is so different from most organizers or tidiers, she makes you look at things as a WHOLE. You don’t go room by room. Also, her method of folding allows you to see everything which to me was slightly mind-blowing.
Now here’s where she lost me.
She explains that upon holding an object you should know whether or not to keep it on the basis of whether or not it brings you joy. This would be great if depression and anxiety didn’t keep me and millions of other people from finding joy in much more obvious scenarios. I can imagine that holding an object and finding joy for many people can be difficult but throwing depression and anxiety into the mix, it’s going to be especially confusing.
If I can’t find joy in the obvious things that should bring me joy how am I going to find it by holding it an object?
Upon realizing that the KonMari method wouldn’t work in the traditional way, I had to make a few adjustments so I could see results.
How I Did It
- Have I worn in it in the last 3 seasons? *for non-special events garments*
Do I really see myself wearing this? Is it something I reach for when getting dressed and that goes well with the rest of my closet?
- Is it in good condition?
No sense in keeping something that is ruined or in poor condition. If you are to keep it, set it aside and have it fixed, or learn to fix it yourself. Do so immediately, otherwise, it isn’t really that important to you.
- Do I feel an emotional attachment to it? Why? Is that enough of a reason to keep it?
Put it aside and after you’ve gone through the majority of your belongings you can re-evaluate whether or not to keep it.
- Do you think someone else would appreciate this item more than you?
Upon doing some closet cleanout and re-discovering a few items that I really didn’t need anymore I put them aside. Coincidentally, my parents were leaving to Costa Rica where they live part of the year. They visited a friend of mine there, Valentina, a teenage local who I’ve become close with. They shared some new items, I had never worn or used, with her and she was ecstatic. One of the items, a bag, my mom really liked and secretly I know she really wanted it. I told her she has more than enough bags and I wanted her to give it away. She called me, OVER THE MOON with how happy Valentina was after she had given her the garments and especially the purse. I hoped that my mom seeing how happy someone could be from an item that neither she nor I need, nor use, would inspire her to filter through her things.
These were some of the tricks I used in my KonMari workaround. Things that work for others won’t necessarily work the same for someone with mental health issues because our brains don’t work the same way. Go easy on yourself. It’s okay if you need to do a filter/life/closet cleanse more than once, nobody said you have to do it all in one shot.
Take my word for it, the satisfaction of all those empty hangers is next level.
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